"And as the fire rose in the sky so it did in her soul and the girl who once cowered alone in the dark now turned her face to the sun and ROARED." - Fiona Summerville
Dear Father Pat McNamee,
I am writing you to report that someone is being abused, tortured, degraded and legally stalked by one of your family members. If this does not STOP, the chronic stress from the abuse will soon kill her. This person is me, the abuser is your relative, Marty Warner, Independence, Oregon. The enablers are your relatives and sadly, my eight children.
I have exhausted all options for survival, so I am writing you as a last resort. I want and need emancipated from my ex-husband [your relative, Marty Warner.] I NEED YOUR HELP. For more information about my upcoming child support court hearing January 10, 2018 please read, I Want Emancipated from My Abuser, Marty Warner: Escaped & Hunted
This will be the 47th court related hearing since seeking safety from Marty Warner in 1995. It has been too much to bear financially, emotionally and physically.
I am writing this letter because I have no where else to go and Marty Warner will NOT LISTEN anyone. This is not easy for me. I am unable to continue to pay Mr. Warner for child support due to poverty. I do not believe I should be punished further for escaping a lifetime of abuse under his rule and control.
I have learned that confronting abuse and violence is ugly and requires difficult self-examination. Abused people often suffer in SILENCE in a world that prefers a 'convenience' of blissful ignorance than a confrontation with dark truth.
I am posting this OPEN LETTER on social media and am sending a copy of this letter to the His Excellency Archbishop Christophe Pierre, Apostolic Nunciature in the United States of America, the Archdiocese of Portland, Oregon, the Archdiocese of Seattle and to Father Milhton Scarpetta, Snohomish, Washington as well as to the media, my friends, readers, counselors and supporters.
ACTION NEEDED: EMERGENCY FAMILY INTERVENTION
Before the January 10, 2018, court hearing, I need you and the family to contact my ex-husband, Marty Warner at:
Phone: (503) 838-1662, 8700 Fruit Farm Rd., Independence, Oregon 97351 or
Work address/phone: City of Monmouth Oregon Public Works,
401 Hogan Road, Monmouth OR 97361 Phone: (503) 838-2173
and ask him to sign the SATISFACTION of Support" form to Dismiss the $3,815.74 Polk County Child Support Judgment against me, Coral Anika Theill, by January 9, 2018.
I need you to initiate a family "intervention" and help me so I can finally become emancipated from the "Warner/O'Halloran family and the Oregon Court System. I wish to spent the rest of my days healing from this predatory, toxic and abusive family.
If Mr. Warner is not open to your request to dismiss the judgment, I would suggest his brothers and sisters as well as my children have a fundraiser to help pay this fraudulent 1999 child support judgment of $3,815.74. That is a small request compared to the $250,000 it has cost me to escape this family as well as 22 years of court trauma, poverty & grief.
A few years ago, I contacted Father Milhton Scarpetta due to these court issues regarding the child support judgment, My friend, Jean Weisensee, also contacted Father Scarpetta since Marty Warner's brother and sister attended his parish. We did NOT receive a reply.
You can contact Mr. Warner's sister, Peggy Warner and his brother and sister-in-law, Steve and Jane Warner at: jswarner22comcast.net
and: St. Michael's Parish, Father Milhton Scarpetta, Snohomish, Washington
Phone: (360) 568-0821, Ext. 110
I am recommending that Father Scarpetta suspend four of his volunteers, Peggy Warner, Steve & Jane Warner and Judy Bartelheimer while they attend a year of domestic violence, rape and child abuse training. I am requesting apologies for the trauma I have suffered from them. Recommended domestic violence experts and counselors are Debra Wingfield, Julie Owens and the local Domestic Violence Services of Snohomish County. Since they have condoned the acts of violence and rape I suffered from their brother, Marty Warner, I dedicated my article about MARITAL RAPE: An Act of Violence to Peggy Warner, Steve & Jane Warner as well as the entire family.
I contacted Judy Bartelheimer, St. Michael's Parish Liturgy Commission (360) 568-1189 judylsbgmail.com before my Seattle, Washington radio interview July 2017 on domestic violence and financial abuse. Ms. Bartelheimer said that Peggy Warner, Steve & Jane Warner would never be involved in supporting an abuser or condoning abuse of any kind. I asked her, "May I quote you?"
You can also reach Peggy Warner at Primerica (425) 353-0155. She would be able to help you also contact her brothers and sister Steve, Ray, Dennis, Bernie and Donna.
By doing so, you will help save my life from the garnishment of my "food budget" to pay my wealthy ex-husband child support. My passport would also be re instated so I would be allowed to visit my relatives before I pass from this earth life.
You can reach my eight children, Sarah (Warner) Bobeda, Rachel (Warner) White, Aaron Warner, Theresa (Warner) Arnold, Joshua Warner, Rebekah Warner, Hannah (Warner) Hart, and Zachary Warner, (ages 22 - 38) through their father, Marty Warner or at their place of employment. Joshua Warner can be reached at Corban University: 503-302-7117 or (503) 581-8600 Email: email@example.com. Theresa (Warner) Arnold can be reached at: Vaikuntam, Jay, Dds - Pediatric Dental Assoc. (541) 928-1509, Sarah (Warner) Bobeda can be reached at InFaith Ministry: (610) 527.4439. You can reach Rachel (Warner) White through her husband, Jesse White's, employment, at Grand Ronde Reservation (503) 879-5211.
Marty Warner's estate, which includes a home and 12 acres, is worth approximately 1/2 million dollars. He presently works for the City of Monmouth and collects $2,500 for social security. His 1999 fraudulent child support judgment against me is a form of power and control - 22 years after my escape. Our children are now 22 - 38 years old. Due to years of brainwashing and trauma bonding, they wish no contact with me.
I have lived under poverty level for the past 15 years, I am disabled and have no family and monies for an attorney. While my oldest son, Aaron Warner, was 17-22 years ago, I assisted him with college tuition, housing, transportation, legal and medical costs amounting to $15,000 as well as paying Mr. Warner, my ex-husband, child support for my son. Since seeking safety in 1995, divorce, court fees, travel, legal fees and loss of work has cost me nearly $250,000 - 46 court related hearings to date. I do not believe we should have to PAY to seek safety, and I find it OBSCENE that a rape and D.V. victim should be paying her abuser/rapist child support for the children who were stripped from her life and brainwashed to hate her.
For information about my last court hearing of November 2, 2017, you may read my OPEN LETTER to Oregon Governor Kate Brown: Family Court Watch Nov. 2, 2017 for Rape Victim Coral Anika Theill: Polk County Oregon
I hope this letter will be used to instruct all who work in church ministries. I believe the majority of clergy and church volunteers are lacking and deficient when it comes to issues such as domestic violence, rape, child abuse and child molestation. Many of them support our abusers. This letter is not short as it covers 42 years since I met you, Marty Warner and his family. It also covers 22 years of my plight as a domestic violence and rape survivor/victim.
There are not always two sides to every story. Our determination to pursue truth by setting up a fight between two sides leads us to assume that every issue has two sides--no more, no less. But if you always assume there must be an 'other side' you may end up scouring the margins of science or the fringes of lunacy to find it. This explains, in part, the bizarre phenomenon of Holocaust denial, among other denials, and that river flows through lots of courtrooms.
Individuals who escape abuse and torture deserve the utmost respect and support. These people have risked it all to heal and stand up for the truth. These people are heroes and angels who hold a horrific reality for everyone else. They have suffered and escaped, and for that, we should bow our head in reverence and listen to their stories.
Before you listen to my abuser's and his supporters "side of the story" ask them if they have read the 650 page court file, listened to the 23 years of court audio tapes, viewed the court video tapes, viewed over 45 hours of abusive deposition tapes, interviewed witnesses, spoke to the women Marty Warner abused, read affidavits, medical records and/or the juvenile court records. I have lived this HORROR story and also have copies of all the court tapes, transcripts and documentation for my published memoir.
My daughter, Rachel White's husband Jesse, believes my ex-husband is a pillar in the community and I am a liar. SHAME ON HIM and this entire family. Jesse White has never met me, but posted comments in a newspaper as if he were an expert on my life history, marriage and my children's history. Please read: Exposing Enablers: Meet Jesse White - You are a Coward and No Friend to D.V., Rape & Child Abuse Victims
This letter is an experiment since the #METOO movement swept the nation this year. Will you and the family respond with compassion and help or further re victimize and dismiss me? Many victims learn that when it comes to abuse, society won't help you.
The movie Spotlight, stirred deep emotions in me as I reflected on the abuse I suffered silently as a child, in my marriage, churches and now in Oregon's family court system. The message of "Spotlight" is simple---survivors will see their perpetrators and enabling institutions (whether family, school, sport, court or religious) unmasked for what they are. The truth has that effect.
I am just one face of millions in the #METOO movement and recently published my story #METOO Childhood Rapes, Soul Murder & 'Trauma Blindness'.
Sadly, many adults are unable to escape relationships with the very people who have abused, tortured and/or molested them, just because they are “family.” I believe people can develop ‘trauma blindness’ and either deny their pain or become so accustomed to it that they are afraid to relinquish it.
‘Trauma blindness’ is the mental scarring that somehow prevents you from accurately ‘seeing’ trauma around you and being able to avoid it. Today, the mentors in my life are assisting me as I bring the pieces of my soul and self back. As a young girl, I prayed to the Universe to please help me. My prayers are being answered.
My case history in Oregon courts has been documented by physicians and advocates, including my counselor and mentor of 20 years, Barbara A. May, PhD, RN PMHP, Professor Emerita of Nursing, Linfield College, Portland, Oregon, as one of Oregon's most violent and obscene rape and domestic violence cases. I have lived under a “state address protection program” from my ex-husband, Marty Warner, Independence, Oregon, since 1999. My published memoir was used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College, Portland, Oregon.
My ex-husband used Oregon's family courts to continue his campaign of terror against me. Marital abuse evolved into legal abuse.
My case speaks loudly of the insidious crimes that are legally permitted and condoned under the guise of church and state-sanctioned domination of males in marriage. The message that the current judicial system gives to many domestic violence and rape victims is that they are not worthy, and that no one cares.
Our culture of shaming and victim blaming needs to stop.
Jack C. Straton, Ph.D., Professor at Portland State University, wrote an insightful article, What Is Fair for Children of Abusive Men?" He writes, "Sadly, both boys and girls have been known to participate in the beating of their mother after having witnessed such behavior over many years." On July 13, 1995, I went into labor with my 8th child, Zachary, soon after my older son, Aaron was violent with me in our home. I was in distress before I reached the hospital and hemorrhaging. Marty Warner did not want my physician to save my life. My physician intervened, saved my life. I spent three days in the hospital in recovery. After the birth of my baby I went home with my abusive husband and soon sought help from an attorney to report the crimes that had occurred in our home including rapes of my daughters.
The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children, including my nursing infant. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.
Removing a mother’s children from her, when she has committed no crime, is cruel and unusual punishment. The physical, mental, and emotional toll of surviving the negligence, abuse and trauma from the individuals who are part of my story will last forever. Although I risked everything to escape from my ex-husband, and in some ways I lost everything, I have never been more sane or more sure that the choices I made were the only choices I could make and survive.
Losing permanent custody and visitation of your children feels like being doused in oil and set on fire. Healing is slow and difficult. The pain never goes away. One doctor describes removing a nursing infant from a mother similar to castrating a man. I still wake up with night terrors. The children also suffer from shock from the absence of their mother.
Loving non-custodial mothers face a stigma in society that is reprehensible and unjust.
My ex-husband and his family alienated me from my children. In many ways they have been successful in erasing me.
Due to traumatic events, I contacted you a few years ago about the legal abuse I suffered from your relative, Marty Warner, since my divorce in 1997. I asked you to please speak with my ex-husband on my behalf. I informed you that I lived under poverty level, had disabilities, and needed your help in requesting that my ex-husband, Marty Warner, dismiss the 1999 fraudulent child support judgment he has against me for $3,815.74. My passport has been revoked for the past 20 years. I have been threatened with jail time and my driver's license could be revoked. Many friends and supporters have contacted my ex-husband requesting that he dismiss this child support judgment. He has responded that he never will. Your response to my letter was, "Sorry to hear about your poor marriage." I never heard from you again.
I was disabled at the time my ex-husband sought the 1999 child support judgment and am disabled now. The upcoming hearing on January 10, 2018 was going to address this matter, but I do not believe the court will rule in my favor. Also, my health is too frail to continue appearing in court.
Presently, the State of Oregon, due to my ex-husband's child support judgment, will be garnishing my under poverty income to pay my abuser, Mr. Warner. The garnishment will be my entire food budget. I do not expect to survive the garnishment.
The ugly truth of this family story is this: my abuser/rapist, Marty Warner, has sued me, the victim, for child support forcing me to a lifetime of poverty and trauma.
Marty Warner and Judge Albin Norblad laughed in court about the rapes I had suffered. You can read the transcript in my article How I Became a Brood Mare & Egg Donor for the Church & State
It has long been known by those who seek power over others, Hitler, the Taliban, Genghis Kahn and many others throughout history, that the way to destroy a population is to destroy their connections to their past. The men who would destroy women are not necessarily destroying only the mothers, their intent is to destroy the child. The mother is but a tool in this quest, a tool that serves as proof of the man's past. He must destroy her to break the connection and reeducate the child into a likeness of himself, or destroy the child trying.
Perpetrators of domestic violence often take revenge on their former partners for leaving the relationship and use custody battles to seek revenge and maintain control over their victims. (Evan Stark, Coercive Control; Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? and The Batterer As Parent)
Maternal Alienation is the ultimate hate crime
For the past 18 years while living under a state address protection program from my ex-husband, Marty Warner, I have also lived as an erased and alienated mother. Marty Warner, his family and friends have convinced my children that I abandoned them. This is a lie. Maternal Deprivation, or Motherlessness, is occurring with alarming frequency due to the unethical treatment of women and children in family court. Maternal Deprivation is inflicting abuse by severing the mother-child bond. It is a form of abuse that men inflict on both the mother and children. . It is a human rights issue.
Losing one’s children via family court causes inconsolable grief and a lifetime of psychic shock. Understanding the correlation between our patriarchal society and patriarchal court system has assisted me in my survival.
In 1996, Dr. Jean Furchner, my custody evaluator, stated in her report to the Court, "There is little in the current situation that will foster any respect for the mother...the emotional message of derogation is the issue."
I have extensive documentation including affidavits from physicians, witnesses, co-workers and neighbors, court transcripts of 45 court related hearings and depositions, court audio tapes and videos, medical and mental reports to substantiate my story.
(L to R) Zachary Warner, Hannah [Warner] Hart, Rebekah Warner, Joshua Warner,
Marty Warner, Theresa [Warner] Arnold, Aaron Warner, Rachel [Warner] White, and Sarah [Warner] Bobeda - -Hannah (Warner) Hart's Wedding Photo - 2013, Independence, Oregon - "Family of the Year"
WALL OF SHAME: Marty Warner & The Pastors, Christians & Ministries Who Support Him by Coral Anika Theill
For nearly twenty years, I was married to a man who ruled his household with absolute authority. His personal justification for his behavior came from Biblical scripture. [as well as the Quiverfull Movement and the Duggar cult and was akin to terrorism and hostage-taking: sexual coercion, financial restrictions, verbal and physical abuse, isolation from friends and family, denigration, controlling my decisions, whereabouts, education, and prohibiting me from working outside the home.
During the years of our marriage, fear of my husband, his religious leaders and religious authorities was branded in my mind. The quiet still voice inside of me reminded me that something was very wrong. I felt alarmed, but there was nowhere to go and no one to tell. Several years of severe mental and physical abuse left my senses blunted; everything became blurred. The instincts of self-preservation, of self-defense, of pride, deserted me.
My ex-husband, Marty Warner, used covert, pernicious abuse in an attempt to murder me. I was required to be a "helpmeet" in a world like the one from Margaret Atwood's dystopian novel The Handmaiden’s Tale.
"It goes unrecognized but it exists. It exists on an extremely covert level.
It happens behind the scenes without anyone even being aware of what the problem is; the real problem. No evidence of it is left behind and no-one has ever been convicted of it yet in reality, what I will term pernicious abuse is something which can and does have a devastating effect, not just on the victim, but also within society. Pernicious abuse can lead a person into carrying out acts such as covert psychological murder, or perhaps even covert psychological manslaughter - something which is very real, insidious in nature but unfortunately unrecognized and virtually unquestioned. - Marc Hubs, Know Your Enemy: Reflections of NPD
I encourage you and the family to read my "post Mother's Day" article in regards to lies my eldest daughter posted on Facebook about me this year to understand more clearly the pain I have endured since the abrupt removal of my children in 1996,
OPEN LETTER: Alienated & Erased Protective Mother Shares Her Story: RESTORE MY GOOD NAME
You can read about the abuse the children and I suffered during my 20 year marriage, including affidavits.
Marty Warner also abused several women in the workplace. You can read Debbie Custis' Affidavit here.
Sadly, while excluding me from their graduations and weddings, my children were quite comfortable inviting my mother and grandmother who sex trafficked me and abused me for years when I was a child. My children were comfortable inviting rapists, abusers and an Oregon Sex Offender to their weddings. I have also been shunned by my in-laws. (i.e, Coach Jeff and Jodi McKay, Corban University) Why? I have never met my grandchildren. Why?
Another obscene memory of your relatives was in June 2003. I was sitting in my car at the Santiam Christian School parking lot in Corvallis, Oregon. It was my daughter, Theresa Warner's, graduation day. I was not invited. I did leave gifts for her and a Hawaiian lei. I watched the entire "Warner family" walk by.
The court order sought by my ex-husband and abuser, denying me visitation privileges in 1999, also created complications in July 2009. I was not permitted to attend my own brother’s funeral in The Dalles, Oregon.
Sadly, my brother, Don Hall, and his girlfriend died in a tragic plane accident July 8, 2009.
My brother’s pastor reported that my ex-husband was attending the funeral, as well as my younger children. According to the Oregon Court Order, I could be arrested for attending the funeral due to being in the same vicinity of my younger children - a violation of Judge Paula Brownhill’s court orders. I emailed the pastor my eulogy for my brother’s service.
My mother, Marty Warner and his family have never apologized for or even admitted their negligence and their exploitation of my mind, body and soul. I have learned in life that much of the population is asleep or “missing in action”.
You counseled Marty Warner and I before you performed our wedding ceremony at St. Mary's Catholic Church in April 1976. Marty Warner was like many men who abuse women. They all 'use the same tactics as pedophiles' in their grooming of their victims. They initially select the same type of target... the people who were being abused were always kind people, the type of people who would put others before themselves. Abusers don't go for the weak — they choose strong people because they 'like a challenge.'
What you did not know when I met you was my history with your relative Marty Warner. I attempted to seek safety from him but had no where to go, no one to tell. I had lost my voice and identity long before meeting Marty Warner. He targeted me. He knew I would be his "perfect victim."
Nearly 800 relatives attended our wedding in April 1976. Since then, Molly Sherman and Kate Conroy are the only two relatives who have shown compassion toward me. Many relatives have shunned me and helped brainwash my children to hate me. Sadly, Carol O'Hallloran has called me a liar.
The most heartbreaking aspect of narcissistic abuse is that after escaping the most torturous, malicious and damaging abuse, all you want to do is recover, pick up the pieces of your shattered life and move forward. This is when the most intensive campaign is launched by the abuser. You find yourself being re victimized by the system and by the abuser's "flying monkeys." Instead of getting understanding and sympathy, you get further beaten down. No victim is fully prepared for this onslaught.
Abusers Support Abusers
Marty Warner, my ex-husband and his family of enablers.
L to R: Bernie Warner, Tillamook, OR, Ed Warner, Harrington, WA, Peggy Warner, Snohomish, WA, Helen Warner (deceased, Ridgefield, WA), Marty Warner, Independence, OR, [Coral Theill's ex-husband] Donna [Warner] Bronkhorst, Snohomish, WA, Steve Warner, Everett, WA, Dennis Warner, Snohomish, WA, & Ray Warner, Vancouver, WA.
DEDICATED TO THE WARNER/O'HALLORAN FAMILY
In her book, Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman writes, “It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of the pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering...“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. Secrecy and silence are the perpetrator's first line of defense. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure that no one listens. To this end, he marshals an impressive array of arguments, from the most blatant denial to the most sophisticated and elegant rationalization.
"After every atrocity one can expect to hear the same predictable apologies: it never happened; the victim lies; the victim exaggerates; the victim brought it on herself; and in any case it is time to forget the past and move on. The more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is his prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail.
I hope my OPEN LETTER will help you, your friends and family to better understand the plight of battered women, rape victims and survivors and will create a dialogue about D.V., rape and child abuse. I hope you will speak to my children on my behalf as well as to my ex-husband's brothers and sisters and recommend they seek help outside the Christian/Catholic fundamental circles that have reinforced their hatred and misplaced anger toward me.
I hope this OPEN LETTER will enlighten you about the epidemic of domestic violence, rape, child abuse and molestation and how "good people" such as your family continue to condone abuse and support the abuser. This fact is obscene and MUST CHANGE.
While I have suffered re victimization and further abuse from Marty Warner, his family continues to be shameless in their support of my abuser.
Photo: (L) Father Pat McNamee, Portland, Oregon firstname.lastname@example.org
with my former mother in law, (R) Helen Warner
I have also been in contact with Apostolic Nunciature of the Holy See to the United States, Washington D.C., concerning my case and the abusive actions of the Warner/O'Halloran family. I believe the Church needs to be aware the pain many of their parishioners cause victims of domestic violence and rape. Three women are murdered every day in the USA at the hands of abusive husbands/partners.
For years, I have received letters and calls asking me what is wrong with the Warner and O'Halloran family? Why do they continue to support a pathological abuser and liar? Maybe you have an answer to their question.
Why does your family support a man who raped me during my marriage while I was ill and could not take care of myself in 1993-1994? Why do they support a man who dragged me through eight various cults, threatened me and beat me. Why does this family support a man who would take a mother's eight children, including her nursing infant from her and then turn them against her by brainwashing them to hate and despise her. (I have received numerous hate letters from my children for years).
Why would a family support a man who would not and DID NOT LEGALLY REPORT the rapes that had occurred in our home that is required by law? I reported the rapes so my children could receive the professional care they needed. *I have copies of all the court documents. The perpetrator was an Oregon Sex Offender for 14 years. This man, who raped my daughters, could see my daughters "any time."
I was not allowed visitation or contact with my daughters or children. Please think on this FACT. Take as long as you need.
I passed six psychological exams before the temporary child custody hearings in February 1996. Mr. Warner failed his one court ordered exam. Helen Warner, who took care of my children after the court hearings, did not have to take once single mental exam. Four children, under her care, were raped.
I was a nurturing and loving mother during the years of our marriage. My married life continued the pattern of my childhood. After surviving 20 years of multiple pregnancies, sleep deprivation, ritual, emotional, and mental abuse, torture, rapes and physical assaults within my marriage, I had finally suffered a severe post partum depression and physical/emotional breakdown due to the constant ongoing violence. While in this near catatonic state, I was again physically assaulted and raped by my husband, causing my eighth pregnancy despite the warnings of my doctors.
His brutal treatment pushed my health further to the edge. While completely broken down I was ridiculed, exorcised for demons, told I was a ‘witch’ and cursed by God by my husband, his friends and family, pastors and ‘Christian’ cult leaders and counselors.
During the period in 1993-1994 I was left at my mother-in-law, Helen Warner's home. I was suffered from a severe post-partum depression and breakdown due to abuse. Helen Warner told me that God had caused "this" because I was not a "good Catholic" like her. She told me I was going to hell. I was forced to dig trenches at her home while in a frail condition. She said she had bought two Brown Scapulars - one for me and one for her daughter-in-law, Anita Warner, because we were "lost."
My physician in Albany, Oregon, Dr. Charles Kuttner, dismissed me as a patient during my short visit at Helen Warner's because Mr. Warner and his mother did not bring me to my scheduled appointments. They took over my "wellness" program which pushed my health further to the edge. When I escaped from this family in January 1996, doctors were amazed I was still alive. They spoke about Marty Warner and Helen Warner as dangerous people who had leanings of mental illness due to their extreme religious beliefs. My physicians were aware I almost died under "their care."
This is a photo of the "Wings of Love" half-way house, that my ex-husband, Marty Warner and his pastors left me at during my illness in the spring of 1994. You can ask the family why they support this form of abuse but would find it inappropriate for you, Marty Warner, his children or Helen Warner, or the family to be left in "this place" while you were sick.
PHOTO: Wings of Love Half-Way House, Killingsworth, Portland, Oregon, Spring 1994
Note: Barbed wire is pointed inward - to keep prisoners from escaping.
"During the period of my breakdown/depression in the spring of 1994, my husband, Mr. Marty Warner, and his pastors left me at the "Wing's of Love" half-way house on Killingsworth in Portland, Oregon, to punish and "break me" (their words) to the will of God. "The house was a shelter for ex-cons, street people and prostitutes. It was filthy and infested with rats and lice. My husband’s debt-free estate, at this time, was over a quarter- of- a million dollars. It was a frightening experience during the period of my illness/breakdown for my “abuser” ex-husband, his Christian cult leaders and religious supporters to be in charge of my “recovery program.” Three months earlier, I had a D & C due to my 3rd miscarriage from being raped by my husband. I was helpless and physically and mentally incapacitated during this time due to my breakdown and partial stroke.
"When my attorney, Mr. David Gearing, questioned my brother, Don Hall, on the witness stand [March 1996] about visiting me in the spring of 1994 at the "Wings of Love" half-way house, my brother broke down and wept at he explained the dangerous and filthy living situation in which I was left while too ill to take care of myself." - Coral Anika Theill, BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark
Judith Herman, M.D. maintains that the function of domestic violence is to preserve male supremacy. “Perpetrators understand intuitively that the purpose of their behavior is to put women in their place and that their behavior will be condoned by other men [women] as long as the victim is a legitimate target. Thus, women live with a fear of men which pervades all of life and which convinces women that their weakness is innate and unchangeable. The legal system is designed to protect men from the superior power of the state but not to protect women or children from the superior power of men. It therefore provides strong guarantees for the rights of the accused but essentially no guarantees for the rights of the victim. If one set out by design to devise a system for provoking intrusive post-traumatic symptoms, one could not do better than a court of law."
When I sought safety for my children and myself in January 1996, the Court allowed me to live in hiding with my young children prior to the court hearings, due to the testimony and affidavits of numerous witnesses. Belts, fists, logs, fraternity boards, threats, coercive control, gaslighting, cults and bullying were my ex-husband's favorite weapons of choice. .
Photo: Coral Anika Theill with her three youngest children, Zachary, Hannah and Rebekah Warner, Corvallis, Oregon, 1998, on a visitation weekend.
My abusive husband used coercive control, isolation and intimidation tactics to strip me of my personhood, safety and freedoms as a United States citizen.
"Coercive control shares general elements with other capture or course-of-conduct crimes such as kidnapping, stalking, and harassment, including the facts that it is ongoing and its perpetrators use various means to hurt, humiliate, intimidate, exploit, isolate, and dominate their victims. Like hostages, victims of coercive control are frequently deprived of money, food, access to communication or transportation, and other survival resources even as they are cut off from family, friends, and other supports through the process of “isolation.” But unlike other capture crimes, coercive control is personalized, extends through social space as well as over time, and is gendered in that it relies for its impact on women’s vulnerability as women due to sexual inequality.
"Another difference is its aim. Men deploy coercive control to secure privileges that involve the use of time, control over material resources, access to sex, and personal service. A main means men use to establish control is the microregulation of everyday behaviors associated with stereotypic female roles, such as how women dress, cook, clean, socialize, care for their children, or perform sexually. These dynamics give coercive control a role in sexual politics that distinguishes it from all other crimes." - Dr. Evan Stark, Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life
I believe I have been harmed by the same rigid and perverse social construct where money means power and power makes right.
I have the greatest respect for women who stand up to tyranny and oppression and fight for freedom and justice. Often they battle alone, with children in tow, and with the enemy entrenched in their home, in their minds, and sleeping in their beds. These are the extreme and painful conditions under which I, and women all over the world, set out to make their escapes from domestic violence and terror. And even so, right up until today, the bravery of women's struggles for freedom is still too often met with the cruelty of questions like "Why don't you just get up and leave," instead of being given the admiration their struggles deserve.
To assist you in understanding my 22 year plight in escaping domestic violence, please read:
In October 2017, Dr. Barbara May, numerous counselors, mentors and friends assisted me by writing "Letters of Support" to the Circuit Court Judge, Oregon Attorney General Ellen Rosenblum and Oregon Governor Kate Brown. I do not believe my health will survive another court hearing.
In October 2017, my mentor, Barbara A. May, PhD, RN PMHP, sent her Letter of Support to the Circuit Court Judge, Oregon Attorney General Ellen Rosenblum and Oregon Governor Kate Brown.
Glen Schmauder, a long term former friend of Marty Warner signed an Affidavit in October 2017. You met Mr. Schmauder at our wedding in 1976. He was one of the groomsmen. Sadly, after our divorce Mr. Marty Warner lied to him during all their conversations for the next 15 years telling Glen that I was committed in a mental hospital and he (Marty Warner) was raising our 8 children by himself. Glen and his wife, Carol Schmauder, have since read my published memoir, and have reached out to me with compassion and support.
Since 1996, your family, including Helen Warner and Marty Warner's brothers, sisters and relatives helped support my abuser to this day. I believe all of you need to seek help from local, state and national domestic violence and rape advocates and organizations. Many of them are familiar with my story due to me writing my memoir, and being a guest speaker on dozens of radio shows, TV shows, at colleges and meeting with Senators. The Warner and O'Halloran families are known as enablers, abusers and "flying monkeys." THIS ABUSE NEEDS TO STOP! The actions of this family are hateful and predatory, not Christ-like.
I am asking you to take the time to understand your relatives roles and my ex-husband's role in destroying my life. I do not feel the Warner/O'Halloran family views me as a fellow human being.
To understand why a man like my ex-husband would seek to remove my children from me, including my nursing infant, turn my children's hearts and minds against me, make it impossible for me to visit my children and/or call them (Helen Warner helped Marty Warner with obstructing justice and disobeying court orders), you can read VENGEFUL FATHER SYNDROME.
Vengeful Fathers frequently use the law and the legal system as a means of enforcing their rights and demands and for continuing to persecute their victims, both mothers and children.
The confusion of living in modern times, believing women in America have rights only to be betrayed and abused by the legal system is overwhelming and debilitating. This poly-victimization of women in today’s society must be studied in contrast to the false beliefs we hold about ourselves and our government. These men who are seeking revenge and foregoing the legal financial obligations must be identified and seen as criminals. We must help these ‘Good Mothers’, and pin the scarlet letter on the rightful owner. The ‘Super Dad’ as he may refer to himself….the new deadbeat dad, and stop rewarding the bully.
Our divorce was final in 1997. I was ordered to pay Mr. Warner half of my poverty income Then in 1999 Mr. Warner had a judge sign a court order for child support that was for twice my income at a hearing I was not informed about.
Marty Warner and his attorney filed a case against me in the Oregon State of Appeals Court suing me for $50,000 more in child support. I was living out of my car at the time, destitute and disabled. Marty Warner knew this fact. I had no monies for an attorney and had to file my own legal brief to defend myself. I had to discontinue college due to ongoing court trauma. This has been my life since 1996. The Jan. 10, 2018 court hearing will be the 47th court related hearing since I sought safety.
Many of Marty Warner's relatives, my adult children and in laws have been involved in church ministry. Helen Warner was a Eucharistic minister at St. Mary's in Ridgefield, Washington. When Helen Warner passed away I was in touch with the Archdiocese of Portland, Oregon, at length. I requested that you not be allowed to share a eulogy at Helen Warner's funeral due to the abuse I suffered from her for decades. I did not want my children who were present at her funeral to hear further lies. I did not feel you had the information you needed to speak at her funeral.
I cannot even begin to share the horrors I experienced at her hands nor can a person excuse another human being for brainwashing my children to hate and despise me. Helen Warner committed perjury on the witness stand during my court hearings telling a judge that I had dropped a note while picking up my luggage in January 1996 that stated I wanted to commit suicide.The advocate in the Archdiocese office referred to my published book and website and shared with me that she understood my request.
While I was living out of my car, I received this letter/email from my daughter. Here is an excerpt:
"Satan desires to destroy you, Mom, and he loves what you are doing for him.
He’ll continue using you as a vessel and when he’s through with you he’ll tear
you down and throw you away. I grieve that things are this way but you are
a discouragement to me and I don’t want to hear from you until you have
changed. PS Don’t ever think badly of my father. You don't know what the
situation is here. Sincerely, Theresa (Warner) Arnold
This is the outcome of her influence on my children, besides my youngest daughters being raped while under her care while I was away from the home. I begged Marty Warner to please ask someone else to take care of my children. I was aware several of her own children had been raped (one of them for years) under her supervision. I knew how much Helen Warner hated me (and others who were not Catholic like her), but he beat me for even asking him to protect my children from her while I was pregnant with my 8th child, Zachary Warner. [My 10 year old daughter witnessed this beating]. The Warner and O'Halloran family need to speak about the horrors they have been involved in. Helen Warner never apologized for her abusive behavior. I attempted to share this with you via letter a few years ago. I believe you DISMISSED ME.
Since I last spoke with you in the late 1970's, my ex-husband pressured me to join the Catholic Church, and in 1979, a Catholic-Charismatic community cult called "People of Praise" in Corvallis, Oregon led by Father Charles Harris from South Bend, Indiana. I was abused and threatened by my husband and the church leaders and eventually shunned. You can read more about my experiences in my published memoir.
I left the Catholic Church after my 4th child in 1985 as this was the right decision for me. My husband, Marty Warner, was enraged and took out his rage on me. In 1985 I wanted a divorce, I wanted safety, but he continually threatened me that he would take my baby and children if I attempted to leave. I had two miscarriages after my 3rd child and remember my Catholic OBGYN telling me, "Kathy, when deer are hunted they lose their young." His words were profound and I never forgot them. My husband demanded more than my health could sustain.
In the 1980's I lost my eyesight due to a rare eye disease. My eyes were bandaged and local physicians could not help me. I finally received help at the Casey Eye Institute in Portland, Oregon. The doctors asked my husband not to get me pregnant, but I had no rights and while my eyes were bandaged and my eyes were fragile from numerous surgeries he used me sexually and I became pregnant with my fifth child, Joshua Paul Warner in 1987.
Marty Warner believed he was the pastor of our family, and initiated home church, forced me to home school, home births were "required" as he believed he was my doctor, also. He read such books by Mary Pride and Full Quiver. His treatment of me throughout the years was that of a sadist. He was never home as he was involved in numerous organizations, including "Right to Life" that kept him away. He also took vacations to be "on his own." My job was to work 18 to 20 hour days, have limited contact with friends and/or my family. My job was to obey him only. I became a good actress as the consequences of speaking up and/or seeking help caused me further abuse and pain in the home.
After the birth of my 5th child, Joshua, in January 1988, Marty's grandparents, Edward and Ethel Warner, wanted to meet our new baby. We drove to Woodburn, Oregon on a cold morning. When we arrived I was told by Marty to stay in the car as his grandparents would not allow me to come into the home because I was no longer a "practicing Catholic." Neither was my husband at this time. So I sat in a cold car for an hour while Marty brought our five children, including my nursing infant into their home. In January 1996, Marty Warner's aunt, Marilyn (Warner) Schlads, brought my twin daughters, Sarah and Rachel, to my restraining order and marital rape hearing. It was humiliating for me to see Ms. Schlads in the courtroom with my daughters. Previoulsly I was told the hearing would be in the judges chambers. There truly has been no end to the horrors of abuse and cruelty by this family.
In short, Marty Warner - son, brother, nephew, grandson, father CAN DO NO WRONG in their eyes.
We moved to the country in 1992. Before this move I had six children, was homeschooling, showing our home as we were selling "home by owner", then packing and helping with the move. I was exhausted but my husband would just tell me, "This is God's will for you." I had no one in my life to talk to. My husband trained our twin daughters to "report on me" when I received phone calls and/or visitors. My life became more and more isolated.
Per the recommendation of my trusted physician, Dr. Charles South, I sought safety in the fall of 1995 to literally save my life. I also reported the crimes of rape that had occurred in our home while being threatened by my husband and his pastors. The rapes, they said, were to be a "church and family" secret.
In Court, the judge told me he was leaving my three younger children with me per the recommendation of numerous physicians. On March 10, 1996, I was forced, by an Order of the Court, and by my ex-husband, Marty Warner, his attorney, his family and religious supporters, to do something that raged against my good conscience, my common sense and against all my motherly instincts. After a temporary custody hearing, a Court Order signed by Judge Albin Norblad forcibly removed my nursing baby and two youngest children from me. I obeyed the Court Order and gave my children over to my ex-husband. I drove to the hospital, rented a breast-pump and later collapsed and went into shock.
Coral with her newborn infant, Zachary David Warner,
and 8th child, July 1995, Independence, Oregon
*Maternal Alienation Fact Sheet.
I could not understand what had happened and why.
I have not yet recovered from the shock; perhaps I never will....
My mother in law, Helen Warner, my ex-husband, his brothers and sisters, and family members were so adamant about my rights of motherhood being removed from me. They were also pro-life and "Right to Life" advocates and legalistic fundamental Christians/Catholics. I found this ironic and hypocritical!
Many mothers who seek safety from abuse are routinely prohibited from having even the most basic contact with their own children, not because they were unfit parents, but because they were outspent, out represented, and out-maneuvered in a court atmosphere that seems to favor those who inflict domestic violence. Battered women may lose their babies and children, their homes, their friends and their livelihood. Survivors of childhood abuse will often even lose their families. Rarely does society recognize the dimensions and long lasting effects of this reality for the victim.
“Fathers who battered the mother are twice as likely to seek sole custody of their children as are non-violent fathers.”—American Psychological Association
Melissa Barnett, an advocate for DV and protective mothers, writes, "This has got to be the most egregious miscarriage of justice I have heard yet. Not only has this woman endured years of abuse and grief from no contact with her 8 children, she has also endured financial abuse and legal stalking. Coral suffered loss of custody due to fraud, malfeasance, judicial prejudice with the pattern and practice of male entitlement in our courts and culture. It's her continued lack of safety and freedom that is remarkable in a country that celebrates its democracy and goes to war to protect other women's human rights internationally. Coral is not alone in the civil and human rights violations experienced by women in America seeking safety and reporting abuse after separation and divorce in this countries long history of women's suffrage.
"While Coral is one of the most outspoken and eloquent speakers on the subject of Victims Rights, Equal Rights for Women, Maternal Deprivation and Custody interference, she herself continues to experience the harshest forms of oppression and retaliation for reporting abuse.
"Not only withheld from seeing her precious children, her very life has been threatened and her freedom has been revoked. After reporting abuse in a State court she was punished to the full extent of the law. This cruel and unusual punishment cannot go unanswered by compassionate citizens who care about the tenants of the constitution for rights of individuals under the laws of the United States and humane treatment for victims of violence.
"I urge each and everyone of you to join the Emancipation Action to free Coral Theill. Her price for freedom from the terror of a domestic violence divorce should not end with more oppression and cruelty at the hands of government officials.
Coral Anika Theill (Mom) with Rebekah & Zachary Warner June 1996
"As Coral writes: A victim's first scream is for help; a victim's second scream is for justice. Please be her voice today. End the cruelty!"
I no longer embrace the ideological rigidity and doctrines of patriarchal religions and “fundamental Christianity,” but wish to help those who are being abused “in the name of God.” As an advocate for rape, domestic violence and child abuse victims, I believe the Church has grossly failed in its support for victims and cannot support patriarchal religions. Sadly, the church continues to protect predators and abusers.
The films Spotlight, KEEPERS, and Maxima Mea Culpa: Silence in the House of God expose the epidemic of innocent children who have been raped by Catholic priests and further supports my beliefs about the failings of the church and many of its members. I believe the church teaching on forgiveness promotes domestic violence, rape, child abuse and molestation.
Exposing individuals who aid, support, enable and condone criminal and violent behavior of abusers is just as important as exposing the men who abuse women and children.
I need you and the family to help RESTORE MY GOOD NAME. Please read here
On April 10, 1996 you performed the wedding ceremony that nearly brought me to my death due to long term torture. I am asking you, your family and friends to help save my very life.
My ex-husband's family refused to acknowledge the horrors of the marital abuse and my cry for help. They became an obstacle to my basic human rights---freedom and safety. I am holding them responsible and accountable for the continued trauma I have experienced throughout the past 22 years. I am requesting that the acts of disrespect, dishonesty and violence against be acknowledged and resolved.
To heal and recover from violent crimes, survivors need the community to create the conditions for an experience of justice. Some experience of justice is the prerequisite for forgiveness and eventually for healing.
I choose to not participate in the silence that protects perpetrators and isolates survivors.
Coral Anika Theill
Author, Advocate, Speaker & Reporter
Alienated & Erased Mother of 8
D.V., Rape & Ritual Abuse Survivor/Victim
BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark
BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark Facebook
A victim's first scream is for help; a victim's second scream is for justice.
cc His Excellency Archbishop Christophe Pierre
Apostolic Nunciature in the United States of America
Archdiocese of Portland, Oregon
Archdiocese of Seattle, Washington
Barbara A. May, PhD, RN PMHP, Professor Emerita of Nursing, Linfield College, Portland, Oregon
*Further Reading & Resources
It's Not Just the Duggars
Patriarchy, Rape Culture & the Oppression of Women & Children
Thank you, Pam, Donja, Rieve, Donna and Maralee for the
LETTERS OF SUPPORT you sent to FATHER PAT MCNAMEE,
January 2018, on behalf on my behalf.
Jan. 4, 2018
Dear Father Pat McNamee: I am writing in support of Coral Anika Theill. Is there someone willing to do the right thing? The general public needs to know about the Family Court Crisis which is destroying families. The general public needs to know that "high conflict divorces" typically include an abusive parent who uses children to maintain control.
I have been in contact with Coral because I know this experience. I, too, am a dedicated mother who was married to a personality disordered male for sixteen years. When he chose divorce, because he wanted to "go have fun" and did not want our children (because he said he didn't want the responsibility and preferred I put them in fostercare), he then decided to stalk and harass for over ten years. He got everything he wanted by stalking, harassing, legally stalking, lying, using violence, and by terrorizing our children and I. He denied visitation, initially, until he was ordered to have visitation and pay child support. Then, he started using our children to maintain control and to get out of paying child support. He was a businessman who could put on his public face in the courtroom but then turn around and assault a family member behind the scenes. I deal with the damage to our children, over thirty years later, and he still does not care.
Can you believe we were regular church attendees prior to divorce? In fact, our family went to a charismatic church in Alexandria, MN. We had Bible studies in our home. My husband (at the time) was a fundamental Christian bible believer like Marty. He enthusiastically raised his hands in worship. We paid for private schools so our children could get a religious based education. How can a church attendee be so Jekyll-Hyde? The first book I read, when the marriage ended, was "People of the Lie" by Scott Peck, M.D. I treasure this book because it helped me to understand how people fake looking good at church but choose evil behind the scenes. But, before I learned about the reality of evil, in this book, I had a health crisis similar to Coral's health crisis. My ex-husband knew my health was fragile but he continued his abusive behavior ten years after divorce. He wanted me dead, as he had threatened to kill me, though he already had another woman in his bed. I learned that wherever there is evil, there is always a lie. I learned about narcissists and sociopaths.
The Family Court System (FCS) is NOT protecting children from abusive male parents. In fact, the FCS is delivering children, unprotected, to their abusers. The ongoing Family Court Crisis is the fact that wife beaters, child abusers, and sexual pedophiles are getting custody at alarming rates. When the protective mother alleges abuse and needs protection, the court often takes her children away. This is all because the toxic, male dominated system needs to keep it's power in place rather than share power with women. This is the age old prejudice, and gender discrimination, which has been in place for centuries. Women who have been through this experience relate to the "burning times" in which women were tortured and killed because of blaming, accusatory hateful fabrications, in the minds of toxic males, who batter women.
I used to be an avid church attender until I went through this eye opening life experience. I now see how much religion has been used to keep women in their place. I believe in the godly path if BOTH the male and female cooperate with godly principles. I do NOT agree with the religious interpretation when religious leaders DO NOT speak up about domestic violence and all this evil perpetrated by male church attendees. Domestic violence is at the root of all crimes. It is destroying families, child well-being and safety, while the masses minimize the impact. Church leaders typically don't want to take sides. However, that is enabling of domestic violence and domestic violence is a severe power imbalance between the male and the female.
I have had to work far too hard in order to survive all of this abuse from family, court system, ignorant masses, religious leaders, ignorant therapists, and children who take anger out on the safe parents, etc. I worked hard to protect our children against their own father and the Family Court System which blames the victim. I had to go into the system pro se when I did not have funds for an attorney. It did little or no good because the more I spoke up about needing protection, the more I got re-traumatized. The good old boys in the system did not want to hear it. I worked hard to survive and went to college so I could become financially independent. I earned both undergraduate and graduate degrees in both Criminal Justice and Clinical Social Work. I have been employed, as a Social Worker, since 1994. I am currently retired from working in County Children's Mental Health and do some private clinical work as an Integrative Psychotherapist. As we all know, this overwhelming amount of stress, trauma, and loss affects one's health. I am now into self-preservation.
Coral is disabled because of chronic trauma and loss, on low income, and needs to be free of her abuser. She needs her children to understand the horrid injustice in all of this. Coral is NOT mentally ill. Here is an article which explains how chronic trauma and loss overwhelm the body: Trauma Survivors Have Symptoms Instead of Memories
Someone has to care enough to do something to stop this evil perpetrated in the name of toxic male violence, domination, entitlement, and retaliation toward a battered woman. Battered women and children deserve to be respected and to be safe. Battered women and children deserve a bonded relationship rather than the maternal alienation inflicted by the abuser. Maternal alienation is obvious, and perpetrated by the abuser, when children want no contact with their mother. That is SO unnatural one has to conclude that someone is using mind control over the children. How do eight children hate a mother who loves them? Because someone is lying to them. They need to be encouraged to contact their mother without fear of retaliation from their father.
A solution for Coral might be a fundraiser so the garnishments do not start. I already started a GoFundMe page in her behalf: SURVIVAL FOR BATTERED WOMAN. The fundraiser was started to help Coral survive financially before garnishments. With garnishments, it make no sense to strip a battered woman of her basic human right to survive. The abuser will never agree to ending his retaliation toward Coral. Possibly there are people who will stand and do the right thing by raising the money the abuser needs in order to end his retaliatory legal action toward Coral. I believe that the religious God does not approve of unending torture and retaliation toward a battered woman and her eight children. There must be someone who is willing to stand, do the right thing, and end this horrid injustice. I hope that person is you.
Pamela M. Bertram, MSW, LICSW
Jan. 3, 2018
Dear Father McNamee:
Please take a look at all the information Coral has shared with you. Release her from this nightmare. There are thousands of cases as Coral and the abuse continues through the courts.
Coral obviously is intelligent loving mother who lost everything due to ongoing abuse... You can confront the members of family involved and truly do the right and help correct this Crime.
Coral suffered the greatest abuse a man can bestow on a women by taking and brainwashing her children.....
Best, Maralee Mclean
Author and National speaker on Domestic Violence and Abuse
January 2, 2018
Dear Father Pat McNamee,
I am writing to you on behalf of Coral Anika Theill. I hope your reading this letter will lead you to communicate with Mr. Warner. I am writing to you in hopes that you will ask him to drop the Child Support balance that the state claims that Coral owes. Coral has tried extremely hard through the years to be with her children. She was denied this. I am a good friend of Corals and also an abuse survivor. However, I have never heard a more horrific story of not only abuse by her ex husband, Martin Warner, but then by the court system and it's many players. We have been taught that the court system is supposed to help us find justice. Coral has been continually denied just that. The way Coral has been treated in the Polk County court system wasn't fit for an animal let alone a loving Mother of eight. Coral’s punishment for trying to protect her eight children was to have them stripped from her.
I know of nothing more cruel, than to take children from their mother, then block them from seeing each other. I have never in my life seen someone conduct themselves with such dignity after such horrific circumstances as Coral. She then went onto help other abused women through their similar experiences which is how I first met Coral. She has been forced to act as her own attorney because of financial reasons. She has had to find legal resources on her own. She has shared these skills with other abused mothers. I hope you will consider the fact that Coral has been forced to be in the Polk County Family court system for over two decades now.
Coral Anika Theill is a domestic violence and rape victim. In 1993-1994 Coral’s ex-husband committed crimes against her according to Oregon statutes and laws. (Chapter 743, Oregon Laws 1971, 163.375) Yet, he was embraced and rewarded in our judicial and religious system. Coral lost custody of her children when she sought safety and was ordered to pay Mr. Warner Child Support. An exorbitant amount of Child Support, I might add. She has had no attorney since 1997 due to poverty. Coral has been stalked through the courts by her ex husband for a couple of decades now. No one knows the horror of being stalked through the courts by your abuser and rapist. Coral had the nerve to fight for the right to be a mother to her children. She has paid dearly for fighting for that right. Coral has copies of all of her Court and Deposition audio video tapes and has written extensively about her plight and experiences.
Glen Schmauder, a long term former friend of Mr. Warner, signed an Affidavit in October 2017. Glen was one of the groomsmen in Coral’s and Mr Warner’s wedding. Mr. Warner lied to Glen during all their conversations for the next 15 years. He told Glen that Coral was committed to a mental hospital and that he was raising their 8 children by himself. Glen and his wife, Carol Schmauder, have since read Coral’s published memoir, and have reached out to her with compassion and support.
“Secrecy and silence are the perpetrator's first line of defense. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure that no one listens. To this end, he marshals an impressive array of arguments, from the most blatant denial to the most sophisticated and elegant rationalization. "After every atrocity one can expect to hear the same predictable apologies: it never happened; the victim lies; the victim exaggerates; the victim brought it on herself; and in any case it is time to forget the past and move on. The more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is his prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail.” ~ Judith Lewis Herman, Author of “Trauma and Recovery: the aftermath of violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror," Professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Harvard University Medical School, Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program in the Dept of Psychiatry at the Cambridge Health Alliance in Cambridge, Massachusetts
Judge Monte S. Campbell signed an Order of Relief From Judgment on September 22, 2017 as well as an Order of Default in this case. This was in connection to the Child Support balance. Coral had served Polk County Deputy District Attorney John Adams court papers on Aug. 17, 2017. Mr. Adams returned them to Coral the same day by mail with a letter stating:
"Dear Ms. Theill: We are returning the enclosed 23 pages to you. Our office cannot file your pleadings with the court on your behalf. We do not represent you and cannot provide legal advice. Thank you for your understanding.” Sincerely, John Adams, Deputy District Attorney.
I have never witnessed Coral so excited as the day she initially received the signed Order of Relief from Judgment dated September 22, 2017. She was given an Order of Default in this case as well. Coral was given a couple of days to celebrate what she thought was the end of this horrific saga for over two decades. Deputy District Attorney John Adams, upon learning of the signed Order of Default, then filed a Motion to Set Aside Order of Default. The Deputy D.A. is claiming that Coral incorrectly served him and not Mr. Warner. I’m curious how a so called Deputy District Attorney is served by Coral yet doesn’t take the time to read who the defendant is in her documents. Mr. Adams just quickly returns the documents back to Coral.
Mr. Warner, owns a home and 12 acres in Independence, Oregon worth approximately $500,000. He works as an engineer for the City of Monmouth in the Public Works department. He also collects Social Security income. Coral was disabled at the time of the original Child Support judgment of 1999. I think it is very apparent that Mr. Warner does not need this Child Support. This is blatantly a CONTROL TACTIC and nothing else. The amount of time he is putting into making Coral miserable I think pretty much sums up the last 22 years.
Coral lived out of her car for three years and is now disabled, living under poverty level on the H.U.D. program, receiving food stamps and energy assistance. She often does not have adequate food, health care or transportation. Garnishment of her meager income would cause severe suffering in her day to day survival.
Something that people do not seem to understand is that Coral went above and beyond her Child Support payment through the years. From 1998-2003, Coral also contributed approximately $15,000 for out-of-state college tuition, housing, transportation, and medical costs to her older son, Aaron Warner. He lived with Coral in 1998 and 2000-2001, while she was paying Mr. Warner child support for Aaron Warner. Coral’s friends, throughout the years, have personally contacted Mr. Warner on her behalf, asking him to dismiss the $3,815.74 child support judgment. He responded to them by saying that “He will never dismiss the judgment.”
Deputy D.A. John Adams, instead of allowing Coral to finally leave the family court system behind her, is blocking her. Coral filed her papers by the book and sent them to the appropriate people. Mr. Adams mistakenly sent Coral those court papers back to her. This was not her mistake it was Mr. Adams. I’m not sure why Mr. Adams is going through all of the trouble to bring this back to court. Especially, after being aware of Coral’s circumstances. Why would Coral have to pay for his mistake when she did nothing wrong?
If Coral is forced to pay this Child Support payment, the garnishment will replace her "Food budget" each month. She wants her passport to be re instated so she’d be allowed to visit her relatives before she passes. She will not be allowed to have her passport back until one of two things happens: 1) She is forced to pay off the entire sum of her Child Support or 2) She is able to have the Child Support written off by the judge. Which would entail her ex husband to finally release Coral from this Child Support balance. The stress and anxiety has taken an immense toll on her mentally and physically. I don’t think that Coral is asking that much. She’s asking to be able to have food to eat and not to be put out on the street.
What I am saying to you is that a single phone call from you, a letter, or a conversation in person with Coral’s ex husband could make all the difference. It could mean that Coral would finally feel some peace after 22 years and finally be able to put all of this behind her. I really appreciate your taking the time to read my letter.
Dear Father Pat,
Unless there has been parental abuse, (which there was NOT!) no Mother should EVER have her children taken from her!!! What happened to Coral was Cruel Beyond Belief: Unjust, Unfair and what I would consider to be Sinful.
What M. Warner did- and continues to do-is shameful and sickening.
Please, please, please if there is anything you can do to help release her from the vile and punishing hold he continues to have upon this mother, please act now!
M. Warner has behaved in a way that is as far from Christian as one can imagine. I am trying to look upon him with compassion rather than hate- Jesus spoke about forgiveness and I am trying to do so. It will be much easier to do however once I know his continued viscous abuse of Coral has at last ended!
From the depths of my heart, thank you for doing all you can to free Coral from the captivity of this heartless man.
(Pediatric Nurse, UCSF)
370 Neva Street
Sebastopol, Calif. 95472
Dear Father McNamee,
I am am appealing to you as a man of God to please help Coral to be released from the money owed to her ex-husband.
The children are grown, he does not need the money, and she is suffering from poverty and health issues. She is in her sixties, as I am, and is confidant she cannot live on any reduction to her meager income.
I have been through similar injustices and although not nearly on the scale of Coral's, I can tell you how debilitating it is. At our ages all we want is to go on with whatever time we have left in peace.
By releasing her of the judgement on her Mr. Warner can go on with his life freed of Coral and her from him.
Please take my appeal to heart and do the godly and righteous thing.
Donna (Buiso) Aceto