A startling memoir of one woman escaping an abusive marriage and oppressive religious cults and trying to find "justice" in a failed system.
Anyone concerned with issues of abuse and injustice in America should read this book.
BONSHEÁ – Yaqui Indian – meaning ‘out of the darkness into the light’
April 2013 NEW BOOK RELEASE Flyer
(Dallas, Oregon) Just when you thought you knew what was going on in your community, here comes a story that just may shatter the security of your American Dream. This is a story about abuse, survival, false religion and dubious court systems in a state that may be advanced on some levels, but remains a miserable failure in terms of equity and fairness and conventional thinking.
The story of Coral Anika Theill is possibly one of the most flagrant, outrageous examples of small town injustice in America. - Tim King/Editor/Salem-News.com, Author & War Correspondent
Read first 40 pages of Coral's 2013 memoir
BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark at Amazon.com
BONSHEA is a work of immense courage, a true tale of heartbreak and salvation. By exposing what was done to her by the court system, by the religious authorities and by their enabling cronies as she took the moral high ground by leaving an abusive husband, the author gives readers the tremendous gift of her hard-won insight and spiritual awakening. As shocking as it may be, Coral's story resonates with the truth. - Maureen T. Hannah, Ph.D. Chair, Battered Mother's Custody Conference, Albany, New York
BONSHEÁ illustrates the degree to which the legal system can also be used as
a vehicle to further perpetuate abuse even after the victim has chosen to take a
stand against the abuse. - John Haroldson, District Attorney, Benton County
District Attorney's Office, Corvallis, Oregon
I recommend this book for health care providers, those in the criminal justice system, and volunteers or helpers of any kind to get insights and clarity about the complex dynamics of domestic violence and its toxic effects to individuals and society-and what needs to be done to eradicate this pandemic problem." – Barbara A. May, PhD, RN PMHP, Professor of Nursing, Linfield College, Portland, Oregon
BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark sheds light on one of the tragedies of our time: that protective parents often lose their children to the parent with power. Unfortunately, there is no oversight of the family court system, nor is there any standard for determining justice in custody cases. I hope this will change.
I would love to discover that every Judge, every Minister, every person who seeks justice, would read this book! I have consulted thousands of abused women and know that the injustice Coral suffered, the loss of her children, is an all too common experience of abused women seeking to protect their children and to save themselves. - Patricia Evans, Author, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship"
and the intolerance of difference. My documentation exposes the dark side of human nature when all people are not valued. A healthy society must have the courage to address these issues, speak about them, examine them and bring them to light. Indifference encourages, "silent violence"-the type of violence I experienced in my home, in the community, religious circles and judicial system. Nobel laureate, Elie Wiesel states, "The indifference to suffering makes the human inhumane.
This is my story:
After surviving years of childhood and marital abuse and neglect, a woman suffers a physical collapse, partial stoke and mental/nervous breakdown. While in a near catatonic state, the woman is physically assaulted and raped. She becomes pregnant.
Toward the final stages of her pregnancy, she fully recovers from her breakdown. She births her baby, and mother and baby enjoy bonding and breastfeeding. The mother cherishes her newborn son. After undergoing several psychiatric tests and evaluations, her physicians state that she is well.
Her abuser, the father of the child, manipulates the judicial system and seeks custody of the baby. With intervention from the religious community and testimony about the mother's prior mental history, the father is awarded custody of the nursing infant. The mother is ordered to pay her rapist/abuser exorbitant child support while suffering from homelessness and disabilities. She is no longer allowed contact with her child. When the baby is abruptly taken away, the mother goes into shock.
The 'father of the child' has committed crimes against the mother according to Oregon statutes and laws (Chapter 743, Oregon Laws 1971, 163.375), but is embraced and rewarded in our judicial and religious system. The victim becomes the criminal. I am this woman; this baby is my child; and the father of this child is my ex-husband.
Two hundred years ago a system of legal slavery allowed for the ownership of human beings as if they were livestock. Children were ripped away from their mothers with as little consideration as separating a calf from a cow. In this country today, extreme forms of paternalistic religion promote an institutional form of slavery where a woman must be totally obedient to a husband who has absolute control of her life. The wife’s lot is to obey and bear children. If she rebels and chooses to save herself by escaping from this life, the father – supported by the church community and often by the court system, can forcibly strip a child away from the mother.
Loving non-custodial mothers face a stigma in society that is reprehensible and unjust. People assume these mothers do not have custody because they are drug addicts, alcoholics, child abusers, or they just didn't want their children. While there certainly are cases of abusive mothers who give up their children and walked away, in more and more cases today, fit and loving mothers are losing custody of their children against their will.
Keeping the faith and hope for future changes is often all that "non-custodial mothers" have.
It is said that Lady Justice is blind, but she should not be mocked.
The physical, mental, and emotional toll of surviving the negligence, abuse and trauma from the individuals who are part of my story will last forever. Although I risked everything to escape from my ex-husband, and in some ways I lost everything, I have never been more sane or more sure that the choices I made were the only choices I could make and survive.
I have witnessed ongoing suppression, control and violence perpetrated by organized patriarchal religion and our judicial system. Our judicial system needs "our voice" so that injustices that others and I have suffered will not continue to occur." - Coral Anika Theill
About the Author: http://www.coralanikatheill.com/Page_10.php
Coral Anika Theill's published works address abuse and trauma recovery and most recently, wounded Marines and Montford Point Marines. Her writings have encouraged and inspired numerous trauma victims and wounded Marines and servicemembers recovering from PTS and TBI. Coral's positive insights as a survivor have also earned the respect of clinical therapists, advocates, professors and authors. BONSHEA has been used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College, Portland, Oregon. In July 2011 Coral received the Lester Granger Award from the National Montford Point Marine Association. In 2002 she received a Writer's Award from iUniverse Publishing Co. Her October 2011 Leatherneck Magazine article, "Invisible Battle Scars," is cited in the U.S. Army War College "Psychological Health Notes.
Legal Kidnapping of Children in America's Family Courts
"The price for my own safety and freedom in 1996 was an imposed, unnatural and unwanted separation from my eight children, including my nursing infant. The injustice committed against me is not just the physical separation from my children, but the willful desecration of the mother-child relationship and bond, a sacred spiritual and emotional entity.
"Forcibly taking a mother's children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of 'mis-use' of the American justice system and one of the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.
"Nothing justifies the minimization or removal of a fit and loving parent from a child's life. NOTHING.
"LIFE Magazine, USA Today and many other magazines have featured articles on women in prison in America. They report that women prisoners are allowed to keep their babies with them for eighteen months while serving their sentences, (Florida Statute 944.24). I am haunted by this single question. Why was I treated lower than a criminal by Oregon's judicial law system? Presently, I have fewer rights than a criminal in America and I have no criminal record and have no
history of alcohol, drug or child abuse."
"Whenever the custodial parent practices control and manipulation tactics in order to separate child from mother, justice cannot be served. This is the lowest and most hateful form of spousal revenge. As long as mothers are unfairly separated from their children and those who hold the power fail to acknowledge and support the rights of non-custodial parents, justice cannot be achieved.
"Most individuals prefer not to hear the story of how a cultured people turned a blind eye to consenting to the "legal kidnapping of children through America's family courts" and how the majority of our society, consisting of cultured people, remained silent.
"Many women grow up in homes in which they were conditioned and groomed to be victims. They marry sociopathic abusers, have children with them, and lose custody and/or contact of their children when they become stronger and break away.
"Losing permanent custody and visitation of your children feels like being doused in oil and set on fire. Healing is slow and difficult. The pain never goes away. One doctor describes removing a nursing infant from a mother similar to castrating a man." - Coral Anika Theill
How I Became a Brood Mare & Egg donor for the Church & State: Rape is Torture Part 3
by Coral Anika Theill
I have concluded by my present circumstances, that the judicial and religious organizations and people [Oregon State Senator Betsy Close, Pastor Ron and Marijo Sutter, Brian King, Bill Heard, Helen Warner and my own adult children] who have aided my former husband, Marty Warner, all embrace the same views regarding women and children. They believe male power is absolute over women and great harm will come to those who question and/or defy that power. I believe this is the mentality that causes and perpetuates abuse.
- Coral Anika Theill
Polk County Courthouse, Dallas, Oregon
Subjects addressed in Coral's 2013 memoir BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark:
trauma recovery and healing, societal violence, poverty, homelessness, domestic violence, child abuse/molestation, rape, marital rape, Stockholm Syndrome, depression, post-traumatic stress, post partum depression, mental, emotional and physical abuse, spiritual and ritual abuse, cults, People of Praise, Pastor Ron Sutter, Bridgeport Community Church, Bill Gothardism, patriarchal religions, Corban College, Santiam Christian School, therapist abuse and exploitation, Dr. Charles H. Kuttner, George D. Amiotte, Veterans Administration, the Quiverfull Movement, spirituality, quantum physics, judicial injustice, legal stalking, legal kidnapping, Oregon State Bar, impairment of judges, protective parents and "non-custodial mothers" - the new scarlet letter.
Documentary including audio court hearing tapes will be available in 2014.
Oregon Circuit Court judges, attorneys, physicians, pastors, law enforcement and politicians involved in my Oregon case history (1995-2014) published in BONSHEA Making Light of the Dark:
Oregon Circuit Court Judges: Judge Albin Norblad, Judge Tom Hart, Judge Paula Brownhill, Judge John L. Collins, Judge Charles Luukinen, Judge Sid Brockley, Judge William Horner and Judge Monte S. Campbell
BONSHEÁ Making Light of the Dark New Book Release
April 10, 2013 Article by Tim King/Editor/Salem-News.com
Read Article: http://www.salem-news.com/articles/april102013/bonshea-release-tk.php